If I ask a question as what kind of life you want, then most of you will be able to answer without giving much thought. You want to become rich, want to get married, have kids, and want to travel frequently or at the most become a CEO or run a successful business. Most of the people will agree to above until I add the word REALLY in the question. Our idea of an ideal life is mostly derived from the society and people around us. Hardly people do an introspection of what we really want from this life?
We are a social animal and to belong to some place, we have to adopt. We have to adopt the culture, lifestyle and to a great extent thought process. We all know that we declare those people strange and mad who try to live differently. Obviously, we have to pay a price if we really live the way we want and we are not courageous enough to pay the price and hence we all live the same life.
Another modern evil is social media. I am really not against social media, but I am very much concerned about its effects which everyone seems to be ignoring. Nowadays everyone is posting pictures of wherever they go and they pretend that they are living the best life. People like us who look at the picture perfect also believe the same. I can see two issues here. One is that we are trying to show an ideal life to everyone, but the reality is different. We don’t feel the same pleasure which people are thinking we are having. The sad part is that we feel good that other people are thinking that we are having the best time of our life. Now, this motivates us to do more such acts and then we become addicted.
The second issue is that people who are watching these pictures feel jealous and want to live a life like that. They were happy when they had a great time with friends at some nearby picnic place, but their fun filled memory vanished as soon as they saw the picture of their friends enjoying at some international exotic place. Every time we see someone having fun in the pictures (not knowing the reality) we feel sad and we make our spouse also sad for not going to such places and not having such pictures. I have seen cases where couple posted very cute pictures of their honeymoon and after few months girl committed suicide.
Even if we get to live that ideal life it will be a borrowed one and after some time boring one too. We are not asking serious questions such as why was I born into this world? What am I supposed to really achieve? We are not trying to raise our thought level to understand the mystery of life and we are not asking as to how we REALLY want to live this life? People who say that just drink and enjoy are actually looser who do not have the courage to go against the wind and hence they just want to enjoy their beer at the beach only.
My life can be boring for some people, but that is completely fine. I am at peace with the world and I hardly care what other think about me. Instead of discussing sport or new model of BMW, I want to discuss what happens after death. I set my own goals and that does not depend on the ideal life defined by the society. Even if some part matches with ideal life, it is chosen by me and not by others. At the workplace, we will find many people who are not growing in spite of having potential. The reason is that they never wanted such life, but they are not sure how to disown it so they are continuing the way it is going.
We try to own a house by working day and night and sacrificing many personal moments. Nothing wrong in this, but we need to ask what is the most important thing for us. To live in a rented house or to miss our kid’s childhood. There is nothing right or wrong. What is important is that we need to be aware of what decision I am taking from deep within. Everyone has different definitions of success, just be conscious of yours. Someone feel peaceful only after reaching certain financial status and someone feels this peace every day when he or she is involved in kindness.
If you really want to know what kind of life you really want, then sit down and ask some serious questions and ask more. I am sure you will get your answers. By no means, I am saying that you should not live a material life, but be aware of it. Think about the real fulfillment and joy. Do not change it based on other people because they might change soon. The important criteria is that is should be a meaningful one, otherwise what is the point of this human birth.
There is one test to identify your current status. If you are not excited about every day, then you are not living the life you really want. Once you know your status, then start changing and start moving towards your own ideal which is not derived from society. Start moving by 1% every day and do not be in hurry. The real joy is in the journey.
Let us all say that Life is Good.