“A problem shared is a problem halved”
Many people don’t share their problems because they think that others might make fun out of it. Unfortunately it is true to some extent. In today’s world people have become insensitive to other person’s emotions. Such people just want to gossip about other’s problem and want to enjoy it. I feel that behind this lies the desire of feeling superior. They want to show that other people have more problems than them. This does not mean that all of them don’t understand the seriousness of your problems; you just have to identify good human beings.
There is darkness, but there is light as well. There are problems, but there are solutions too. Similarly there are who make fun of your problems, but there are who listen to your problems and are willing to help you. I am not telling you to share with everyone, but with those who understands you and whom you can trust. You don’t have to worry about what they will think. The basic nature of human being is to help others.
“A true friend laughs at your stories even when they’re not so good, and sympathizes with your troubles even when they’re not so bad”
You don’t have to fight alone; your loved ones are always with you. You just have to ask for help. It is always better to have different perspective to our problem. We are so obsessed with the problem that we can’t focus on the solution, even if it is simple. We start complaining that why god is giving me all the suffering. Sometimes when we discuss our problems with others, we realize that our problems are not that big and the pain gets shrink. An old friend might tell you that “Dude, are you worrying about this? This is no big deal”
One negative thought leads to another and suddenly we are overwhelmed with the sadness. When you share your problems, you get a positive thought in the form of positive words. You will hear “Do not worry, everything will be fine”. These are the magical words which will calm your mind. We get the assurance that someone is there with us in the difficult time. They might not be able to solve your problem, but they might reduce the mental pain. We get space to think about the solution because now we know that someone else is also handling the worrying part. I understand that not all problems are small, but when you share they become small.
It also shows your openness and receptiveness. It shows how much you trust your loved ones. I have experienced in the past that, I had problem and I didn’t share it with my loved ones. Later on when they came to know they told me “Why didn’t you tell me? Why did you suffer alone?” I am not only talking about the solutions here, but I want to bring the important point of participation. Sometimes problems are not real, but only mental stress. When you share, you realize that there is nothing to worry about. It makes you relax and you get nice sleep. Your mind works better when it is relaxed.
Tell your problems that you are not alone and they can’t trouble you for long time because you will conquer them with the help of your loved ones.