What makes people happy

Many researches were undertaken to find out what makes us happy. Still the number of unhappy people is increasing day by day. Whatever we do or whatever we want to do is to become happy, but still even after million years of human evoluation we are still wondering on the basic question of life “What is happiness?” The answer of this question cannot be found in science or externally. We need to go within to find the truth of happiness.

“Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you”.  Nathaniel Hawthorne
Recent survey shows that people believe that happiness comes when they achieve some goals. Certain goals like getting rich, getting promotion or buying a house makes them happy. We always tell to our self and to others that we will be happy after we achieve something in future. We all know that the happiness we feel when we achieve something last only for few days or for few moments. During my visit to Tokyo, I wanted Playstation portable (PSP) desperately and thought that I will be very happy when I will buy that. Finally I bought my PSP from airport and was very excited, but to my surprise this happiness lasted only for few days. I forgot that things or matter cannot give me happiness; it can just give me pleasure.

“If you search the world for happiness, you may find it in the end, for the world is round and will lead you back to your door”.  Robert Brault

We often get confuse between pleasure and happiness. They look similar but they are different. The main difference between the two attributes is that pleasure is external and happiness is internal. Person can be unhappy even if situation is pleasant and person can be happy even in unpleasant surrounding. We can be unhappy even after eating food in the 5 star hotels. Pleasure is an event, while happiness is a state of mind.

“Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude”.
Denis Waitley

Last year on the eve of Christmas I and my wife visited one old age home. Our only intention was to give them some happiness , but I didn’t know that I would learn the biggest lesson of my life. We met one lady who must be in her late eighties. She was handicapped by hands, legs and she was not able to see also. We asked her how is she feeling and she told us “I do not regret for anything, I am happy because my Jesus is with me” That sentence brought tears in our eyes and we could not say a word. She continued and said “God bless you”. You must be surprise that how she can be happy when everything is wrong with her. Her family left her, she is handicapped, she has to depend on others for all small things and yet she is happy. She has found the true happiness for herself and she gave the message to us that happiness lies within.

“Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence”.
Aristotle

Few days back I came to know a word called “Sahajanand”. This means one who has natural joy in oneself. Sahajanand is our true nature. When we remove all unnecessary emotion then we are left with happiness. We have forgotten the happiness in search of pleasure. Bhagwad Gita also says that the last state to achieve by human being is “Ananda” which means inner happiness.  Real happiness means developing a state of life in which we are never sad because of problems and where just being alive is a source of great joy. This state remains no matter what we might be lacking, or what might happen around us. We feel the inner peace where everything is perfect and everything is achieved.

Just remember that we all are blessed with happiness.

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